People say things. Some are good things, happy things, hopeful things. Other times it may be hurtful things, mean things and hateful things. When the same person says all of these same things to you, how do you know which words to believe? I find myself thinking about this quite often. I want to be hopeful and think thy the good words hold more truth than the negative words, but when no apologies follow, well, I guess that must answer my question.
I find that I do not have a lot of time to write, or when I do have time I cannot think of anything. Many times I have too many negative things to say so, like my mother taught me, I don’t say anything at all. This is happening a lot actually–me not saying anything at all.
I saw in the news recently a local hockey father was arrested for attacking his son’s coach for benching him during a game. Scarily enough, this happened at my kids home rink. I’m not going to lie and say that I’ve never yelled at a ref or disagreed with a call because I have. Many times. I even disagree with the coaches on occasions. But I’ve never yelled at them before, during, or after a game. I’ve never even mentioned my opinions of their on-ice decisions. This season, however, I’ve come close to pulling a coach aside after a game to ask what on God’s green earth he was thinking.
I know I am not the only parent on the team with questions for the coaching staff. Other parents have emailed and asked the coaches for line changes or different drills during practices. All to no response in return. We are now more than halfway through the season and heading into an out of town tournament. Our boys have learned very little this season and nothing at all since the very beginning of the season. In fact, I’ll even go so far as to say they’ve all, every one of them, have regressed.
I am unsure why this escapes the attention of the coach and his assistants. Many of these boys would like to go on and play for their school teams; at this point I don’t know if any one of them would be selected.
Is it possible to bring this up diplomatically, without hurt feelings or tempers flaring? Will it even make a difference? Or, is it just a moot point? Or, since I have nothing nice to say, do I not say anything at all??