Safety Dance

What is it about men that they think women want a knight in shining armor?

Maybe it isn’t that they actually want to be the knight, but they want credit for doing a good deed.

Let me fill you fellas in on a little secret: we don’t care.

We especially don’t care if it was something from more than a decade ago when you thought you were coming to our rescue.

When you say, “I had to really beg my friend to give you a ride to go out with us…” that doesn’t make me think more of you. That makes me feel bad about myself. I am not going to thank you profusely for begging someone to pick me up – especially when I could have just driven myself.

And when you say, “So-and-so always said you looked like you were wearing your grandma’s clothes when you wore that brown sweater…” Again, I am not thankful to you for defending my honor, I’m feeling more insecure about myself and wondering what else was said about me.

And fellas, that stuff sticks with us. I haven’t worn that sweater in about 17 years but I still think about that outfit I wore it with and question myself about it. Now. 17 years later. As a woman almost in her 40s and not a meek 23-year-old.

And it was probably 14 years later when you even told me the story about your friend not wanting to drive me. I know your friend didn’t like me, he ignored me when we saw each other at the gas station not long after that.

Even you online friends now, you don’t need to tell me that one of your friends didn’t like something I said in a post or a tweet. We aren’t married or engaged or even dating. Your friends do not need to like me and I do not need to like them. Chances are, if they don’t like me, I already know it. You don’t need to tell me how you feel like you defended my honor somehow. I am not going to be dancing a jig to show you how appreciative I am.

Unless it is something that I actually truly need to know about for some reason. Do not tell me. It will most definitely have the opposite effect on me that you are intending. It brings me down and I will not only be less confident in myself, but I will also think less of you.

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Exercise: The forgotten pharmaceutical

So much truth to this. I have definitely noticed a difference since I started exercising regularly.

From the Hilbert College Wellness Center

Exercise:
The forgotten pharmaceutical
By Kirsten Falcone, RN

You may have heard, “Sitting is the new smoking.” This clause is attributed to James A. Levine, M.D., Ph.D., Mayo Clinic, Phoenix, Arizona, whose 30 years of research has concluded that too much sitting is a major cause of obesity, diabetes, breast cancer and dozens of additional chronic diseases and medical conditions. There is now a trend toward solutions such as using standing desks, and encouraging breaks for walking and stretching. Reducing sitting time is crucial to good health, even if you meet the recommended amount of exercise per week.

Exercise is crucial to good health. Performed properly, it lacks the long list of side effects frequently seen with pharmaceuticals. Therefore, a new mindset is emerging in the medical world. This new mindset is one that at the very least includes exercise in its pharmaceutical…

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